What do you love about life in and of itself?
If the answer is nothing, then this article my friend is for you as I go through how working with a Counselling Psychotherapist will support you in uncovering what there is to love about life and (more specifically) your life.
It would be easy for me to sit here and tell you what you should love about life and more specifically your life but what use would that be if (and when) you don’t love your life?
It isn’t going to magically make life better is it?
In fact, it’s likely just going to make you feel worse about yourself and your life then you likely already do.
Since it’s just affirming what you already know you don’t have.
And once you know anyway, are you going to be able to do all the things that I’m going to tell you, you should love about life and your life?
Probably not because you can’t do a 360-degree turn simply by having more knowledge from where you are.
So, in this article, I’m not going to go through so much as to what you should love about life and more specifically your life.
Instead, I’m going to go through how working with a Counselling Psychotherapist will enable you to find what you love about life and more specifically your life.
So, let’s get started.
What are you really asking when you ask ‘What do you love about life?’
To love life means to feel a sense of gratitude for life in and of itself.
And to feel a sense of gratitude for who you are and the people in your life past and present (even those who you don’t/haven’t particularly got along with).
As it’s these two things, which equate to you loving your very own specific life.
What is being grateful?
To be grateful, therefore, means to be able to experience gratitude in both the hard times and the good times, which includes any challenging people and encounters you’ve had in your life.
Why? because you understand that the hard times and the challenging people and experiences you’ve encountered in your life, taught you lessons about yourself and what actions to take (and not take) the next time you encounter a similar situation.
As a result, enabling you to get to the next stage of your life (whatever that may be).
And the good times, well they’re just good times.
But the question is do you see each one from that perspective?
Or do you moan and complain about the hard times and the challenging people and experiences you’ve encountered in your life (up until this point) that you can’t acknowledge the good times in your life so you feel you have nothing to be grateful for?
Chapter 2: What do you love about your life and more specifically your life?
Why don’t I feel grateful?
1. A limited understanding of life
When people haven’t or don’t consciously work on themselves by working with a therapist, but more specifically for our purposes a Counselling Psychotherapist, each person operates on a limited view of what life is because each person places their own interpretations on what certain events and experiences they’ve encountered in their life mean about them, other people and how itself life works, when those interpretations aren’t necessarily true.
And when they’ve not been doing that, they’ve been instead observing what their parents and families do, and/or what their friends or those in the media do and unknowingly or knowingly, take their thoughts, feelings, beliefs, actions and reactions as givens as to how they are to be and live life too.
When again the way of being and living of those they’re observing, may not be suited to their way of being or how they want to live their life but since they don’t know any other way they just go along with what everybody else ‘seems’ to be doing.
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How to expand your understanding of life?
The only way, therefore, to expand your understanding of life to be able to break free from the ideas of others so you can find your own gratitude for yourself, life and more specifically your life, is to consciously work on learning about life from a Counselling Psychotherapist.
Because like I always say, life doesn’t come with a manual so how are you supposed to know how to analyse the difficult events and experiences you’ve encountered within your life to be able to learn the lesson they were brought in to teach you without any support from someone who’s done the inner work themselves and has spent years researching and studying about life and how to support those experiencing difficulties in their life.
No, they won’t be able to give you all the answers and if you go in expecting them to, you’re going to be severely disappointed.
But what they will do is provide you with the information you need to be able to come to your own realisations.
As it’s coming to your own realisations that will enable you to develop your belief and trust in yourself to be able to progress your life forward, which is what’s most important in the therapy process.
Since you see it isn’t that life and your life weren’t supposed to turn out the way you think, feel and believe they should have turned out.
But it’s rather your limiting beliefs (which you’ve accumulated over the course of your life because of your lack of knowledge about life/your life, and the real you, along with, your fears, doubts and insecurities about yourself), which are all getting in the way and are holding you back from being able to live the life you know in your heart you were born to live.
2. Your negative experiences outweigh any of your positive experiences
If you’ve experienced some kind of trauma (i.e. an event that had a big emotional impact on you, which at a very young age can be anything) or you’ve not felt seen, heard and understood by others throughout your life, then it’s likely you don’t feel grateful because these events have clouded your experiences (both good and bad).
Therefore, building this hard interior wall where no emotions can get through.
Which means you are blocked from feeling any real sense of gratitude because along with having a lack of understanding of what life is in the context of your own life, this wall is helping you to keep numbing, ignoring and avoiding your emotions since that’s what you’ve learnt as a result of your experiences.
Therefore, you’re not able to hear the wisdom these feelings are trying to communicate to you so you can take the appropriate course of action.
However, gratitude (as much as anything) is a learning and a practice of a particular way of being, which means that you can unlearn the numbing, the ignoring and avoiding of your feelings to be able to experience gratitude for you, your life and life in and of itself.
And so, what working with a Counselling Psychotherapist who incorporates EFT and Matrix Reimprinting into their sessions will give you, along with teaching you how to meditate on the sensations you’re experiencing in your body to be able to finally break down that interior wall.
Chapter 3: What do you love about your life and more specifically your life?
How can I be more grateful and positive?
1. Get a change in perspective
So to go from where you are and not loving anything in particular about life and your life in and of themselves, you, therefore, need to learn about life through obtaining a change in perspective on your past and present experiences (i.e. the thoughts and feelings you’re having towards the situations, which have and are taking place within your life).
This, as a result, will help you to feel more grateful and positive as the perspective you’re given will completely turn what you ‘thought’ was true about you and your life on its head over time.
2. Understand what life is in the context of your own life
This change in perspective, will at the same time, help you to foster your understanding of what life is in the context of your own life.
Which, what I mean by that is, through (in a sense) analysing your life from the inside out in terms of the thoughts and feelings you’re having on a daily basis towards the situations, which are and have taken place in your life, as I talk about in my article A COMPLETE GUIDE ON WHAT YOU NEED TO DO TO MAKE LIFE BETTER, you will gain a deeper understanding of the ‘normality’ of what you’re thinking and feeling in relation to the human experience.
Therefore, making you feel more comfortable in yourself as you realise that your thoughts and feelings don’t make you all that different from everybody else (which is what you’re believing on a subconscious level) but the same as everybody else.
3. Implement tools, practices and techniques into your life
However, you also need to implement tools, practices and techniques (like these >>> 4 MIND-BLOWING TOOLS THAT WILL CHANGE YOUR WORLD AND HELP YOU TO OVERCOME PAST REGRETS) into your life because a change in perspective alone isn’t enough to be able to break down that hard interior wall you’ve built so high to let other people out, for fear of what they’ll think about you were they to know this and that about you.
This at first might be difficult to do since it’s not your usual way of being.
And the sensations you’re meditating on are likely to bring up challenging memories, thoughts and feelings, which you may not feel safe revisiting.
However, with time, practice, patience, perseverance and of course, the support of your therapist they will become second nature to you and you’ll start doing them almost instinctively.
4. Implement a gratitude practice
I know this one is rinsed and repeated but when you’re starting out with a Counselling Psychotherapist, a gratitude practice, like a gratitude journal where you write what you’re grateful for in yourself and the actions you took or what you’re more generally grateful for in your life, is even more important.
Why? because a gratitude practice is a bit like affirmations in the sense that if you use them on a daily practice they’ll begin to work and make you feel good about yourself and your life.
So will automatically change your state of being from the inside out.
5. Improve your self-awareness
All of the above, as a result, will help you to become more self-aware so you can start to recognise (in the moment) when you’re veering away from experiencing a sense of gratitude and instead moving into judgement, blame and criticism so that you can bring yourself back on track.
Although, this again will take conscious effort and practice.
Summary: What do you love about life and (more specifically) your life?
So there you have it.
Your answer to how working with a Counselling Psychotherapist will support you to uncover what you love about life and (more specifically) your life to be able to experience a sense of gratitude for them.
First and foremost, supporting you in uncovering your feelings of gratitude towards life in and of itself, by giving you a change in perspective on the thoughts and feelings you’re experiencing towards the situations taking place in your life and helping you to understand what life is in the context of the human experience.
As well as, giving you tools, like meditation, to help you to break down the hard interior wall you’ve built so high to let other people out.
So over time, you can experience more connection with others and therefore, joy and gratitude for you and your life.
Now over to you
I would love to know what (if anything) resonated with you in this article and what would you say you love about life and more specifically your life? And why? so let me know in the comments section below.
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