Are you wondering what things to get rid of in 2022 to make more space for the things, which matter to you in your life?
If so, you’ve come to the right place my friend as I’ve got 50 things for you to get rid of. Although, of course, you may want to pick only one or two to focus on and add it to your year in review.
Getting rid of things (as opposed to adding more things into your life) can be hard.
Especially when you’ve built attachments to the things that are in your life and have attributed certain beliefs about what these ‘things’ mean about you.
However, that doesn’t mean they’re impossible to get rid of. Although, they are likely to take longer than a year to work on reducing or eliminating from your life altogether.
But if you begin the process now, you’ll be better off in 2023, 2024 and beyond since as this famous Benjamin Fraklin quote says ‘fail to prepare, prepare to fail’.
But first, to be able to begin the process, you need to understand the ‘WHY’ behind getting rid of them and the impact they’re likely having on your life.
Therefore, it’s that which, I’m focusing on in this article.
So let’s dive in.
Things to get rid of #1: Attachments
A couple of great books on letting go of our attachments is one by Pema Chodron called the Journey to Fulfillment: Six Keys for Opening to Life and another is by Diane Eshin Rizzetto called Deep Hope, which essentially builds on Pema Chodron’s book and even Pema recommends so is also worth getting.
And the reason they’re great is because they bring to life the practical tools you can use in your own life to recognise and let go of your very own attachments to the things in your life.
Including even the smallest of attachments, such as our attachment to our belongings or our expectations of others.
Why learning to let go of your attachments matters?
It’s not that you need to completely rid all of your attachments in one go because that’s literally impossible and is likely the part in you (or me) that’s looking to reach perfection.
However, it’s more about being able to pause and notice your attachments and expectations towards certain things in your life and when you notice them in the moment, letting them go.
As a result, making space in your life for more love, appreciation and peace.
So what attachments should you get rid of in 2022?
1. Who you believe you are and are not
Who you believe you are, isn’t who you are and who you believe you aren’t, isn’t who you are either.
You are far more profound than that.
So you’re best shot to finding your very own uniqueness is to work with a Counselling Psychotherapist who incorporates EFT and Matrix Reimprinting into their sessions and analysing your life from the inside out.
In other words, analysing the automatic thoughts, feelings, actions and reactions you frequently have towards the people, places, situations and experiences in your life, in order to be able to see them from a different level of mind to how you’ve always seen them.
2. Who you believe others are and are not
If who you believe you are, isn’t who you are, and who you believe you aren’t, isn’t who you are, then neither is who you believe others to be and not be who they are.
Therefore, there is a lot more to them than you first might think there is so it’s your job to try and see that within them as you see it within yourself.
As a result, cutting away from all those ideas you’ve gathered about who the people in your life are and aren’t to be able to see them differently.
And that includes your family.
As the saying goes, you can’t choose your family but you can choose your friends.
But what you can do with your family, is learn to come to terms with who they are and who they aren’t.
And being accepting/being okay with who they are and aren’t because you know you can’t change them.
And whatever they can’t give you, you know you can find from somewhere else.
Which you can do overtime, by working on changing your perspective (on each of your family members and the things that bother you about them) with a Counselling psychotherapist so you don’t hurt yourself on a subconscious level in the process of being angry at them.
Therefore, also allowing you to detach yourself from being a part of the family unit so you are no longer defined by the family unit and are your own person.
4. Friends and partners
Sometimes it’s easier to live vicariously through friends and partners than it is to take the reigns of our own life and make something of it.
Therefore, I’m inviting you in 2022 to also detach from your friends and partners to become your own person so you can fulfill your greatest potential.
Now this doesn’t mean cutting yourself off from them completely unless of course, they don’t make you feel good about you.
But it does mean distancing yourself enough to be able to work on yourself and see where you can make improvements in yourself and your own life.
All ideas are valuable and so you don’t have to classify them as either good or bad.
They simply are what they are; ideas.
This means you don’t need to get attached to the outcome of your ideas because your ideas are in and of themselves enough.
Sure you need to take action on them to find out if they work or not, but if they don’t work that doesn’t mean they’re bad and the others were good.
It only means that for one reason or another that idea didn’t work and the others did.
As a result, it means absolutely nothing about who you are as a person and/or your capabilities now and in the future.
You are not your thoughts.
But until you learn to distance yourself from your thoughts and to create some space between yourself and them, just as described in the book Thinking, fast and slow, you’ll continue to see yourself as though you are your thoughts.
In other words, you’ll continue to identify with your thoughts as though they mean something about you and who you are and aren’t, as opposed to identifying with the truth of who you are at the core of your being which is peace, love and joy.
On the other hand, were you to have a dialogue with your thoughts before you did anything with them, you’d realise just a little understanding of your thoughts would help to change your perspective on the situation before you.
Therefore, allowing you to keep your inner peace and calm.
However, this isn’t so easy to do if you’ve not first been shown how to do it working with a Counselling Psychotherapist who incorporates EFT and Matrix Reimprinting into their sessions, over a long period of time (between 3 and 5 years).
These include detaching from (but aren’t limited to):
- Electrical goods
Now, I’m not saying you shouldn’t want or buy any of these things.
But what I am saying is your desire or belief you need to have all these things to be happy, to fit in with others or be better than others, is what’s stressing you out and causing you to feel bad about yourself when you’ve got nothing to feel bad about because I bet you’ve got everything you need.
And anything else is a bonus.
Everybody wants success.
However, being successful isn’t what defines you.
Who you are being on a day to day basis as you go about your daily activities is what defines you and what you should primarily focus on day in day out.
As it’s this, which will allow you to be present in your daily activities and interactions with others.
Not how successful you are or aren’t.
9. Money mindset
Money is energy, which means that like energy, money is never in short supply.
There’s an ongoing circular motion of money in that it comes in and out of our lives.
Money, however, stops flowing to us when we become consumed and attached to how much money we have and don’t have in our bank accounts.
And the fear that comes along when we don’t have much.
This also restricts you in thinking of more ways to make money because your idea of making money fits into only one particular box.
Work gives many of our lives meaning and purpose.
However, work becomes a problem when we take it too seriously and are consumed by it.
As a result, prioritising it above everything else in our lives and that includes our relationships.
Therefore, leaving no room for us to connect with ourselves and others, to be happy or enjoy life.
So, it’s up to us to understand what we’re believing about work as opposed to our relationships that we believe we need to prioritise work above our relationships.
The consumption of more and more information does not make you or anybody else more smarter.
What makes you smarter is wisdom.
And you obtain wisdom by experience.
Which you get by working with a Counselling Psychotherapist who incorporates EFT and Matrix Reimprinting into their sessions and analysing yourself, your life, your thoughts, feelings, beliefs, actions and reactions towards the people, places, situations and experiences in your life with them, over a long stretch of time.
12. The reactions of others
The reactions of others aren’t your responsibility.
They are the responsibility of those in question.
Therefore, the only thing you’re responsible for in your own life is your own reactions towards the situations taking place in your life.
Often the challenge, however, is we’ve learnt that someone’s reaction to us is because we’ve done something wrong.
And whilst we may have done something wrong in their eyes, that doesn’t mean they can treat and speak to us in any which way they like when communicating that to us.
Because they do have a choice about how they react, just like we do, even if you or they can’t necessarily see it at that moment.
13. TV/TV Shows
Your excuse might be that watching TV and TV shows connects you to other people, but the thing is that’s a lie.
Because who you are, as you are in this very moment, is enough for you to connect with other people.
So you don’t need to watch TV and TV shows on repeat to be able to connect with others.
All you need to do is believe that who you are as you are in this very moment is enough to connect to those around you.
As a result, getting your life and your time back.
If of course, you like watching TV for hours on end, day in day out, that’s fine.
But know that you’re missing out on a large chunk of life that you would be better off focusing on.
And it’s up to you to figure out and find that large chunk of life you’re missing out on for yourself by analysing your own life, thoughts, feelings, actions and reactions towards the people, places, situations and experiences (past and present) in your life.
Because if you were to do that, I guarantee you’d find less time for watching TV.
Music is one of those things, like TV, which can leave you feeling bad about yourself on a subconscious level because it has the power to reinforce any negative, limiting beliefs you already believe about yourself and/or others in your life.
Therefore, getting rid of your attachment to music, can in fact leave you feeling better about yourself and your life because you’re not faced day in day out with the constant reminder of the negative thoughts, feelings and beliefs you’re already thinking and feeling about yourself.
That’s not to say you avoid them but you only have to deal with them once, you don’t need to be reminded of them over and over again.
15. Get rid of mindless scrolling on social media
Now I’m not going to say too much on this since I probably said enough here >>> HOW DO I GET RID OF MINDLESS SCROLLING TO GET MY LIFE BACK? So make sure to check it out for more.
16. Your phone
Whilst mindless scrolling may be ruining your life.
Your attachment to your phone is likely ruining your relationships.
Why? because being on your phone when you’re around other people (regardless of what you’re doing on it) signals to them that they’re not as important as what you’re doing on your phone.
Therefore, it pays for you to get comfortable with being present and alone during times when you’re waiting around or aren’t doing anything in particular like waiting to get off your stop on a tube, train or bus or in line in a queue, so that you don’t need to take out your phone as often as currently do.
Because if you can practice this then you can practice it when you’re with others.
Things to get rid of #2: Beliefs
Now the following beliefs are all variations of the same belief of not feeling worthy (see: HOW TO FIND YOUR WORTH AND WHY IT MATTERS).
But to really hammer it home regarding the impact these can have on you and your life, I’ve decided to separate them.
And the good news is once you begin tackling the one limiting belief, you begin the process of tackling them all.
So let’s get on with the first one…
17. I’m not good enough
You are good enough and have everything you need to be successful.
So this belief is simply a flat out lie you’ve been telling yourself all your life.
Which means that because of this lie you’ve probably stopped yourself from doing things, which without this belief you would have done with no problem.
Therefore, why it’s time you make it a point of getting rid of this belief by choosing to work with a Counselling Psychotherapist who incorporates EFT and Matrix Reimprinting into their sessions.
18. I’m not loud enough
Your fear and insecurity of not being loud enough is likely holding you back from connecting and interacting with people in a meaningful way, than were you to feel confident and comfortable in your own skin.
And the thing is if someone has a condition that you need to be a certain way to be friends with them or to be in their life, then those people likely aren’t the people that you want to be around anyway.
19. I’m not smart enough
I’m not smart enough again is likely deterring you from engaging in activities that you would otherwise engage in were you not to have this belief, such as, choosing not to apply to a job you want to apply to or take that course you’ve always wanted to take.
20. I’m not confident enough
Again, I’m not confident enough places a condition on you that you need to be confident to be able to do anything.
But most people you see taking action don’t necessarily feel confident enough before they choose to do something.
They’ve just learnt how to do as Susan Jeffers book says feel the fear and do it anyway.
21. I’m not capable enough
You don’t need to be capable.
All you need is an openness and willingness to learn what you do not already know.
And therefore, why this belief is stopping you because it’s also linked to another belief you have about yourself around not being able to learn what you need to learn to be able to achieve what you want to achieve.
22. I’m not interesting enough
To be interesting is subjective.
Therefore, what one person finds interesting might not be interesting to another person.
So the key is that you feel comfortable and confident in you because it doesn’t matter if anyone else thinks something you say is interesting or not.
Because if you think it’s interesting and have a passion for it, that’s enough to ignite someone else’s interest in whatever you’re interested in.
And if they don’t find what you find interesting, then they’re not for you.
23. I can’t
Whatever it is you believe will become a self-fulfilling prophecy one way or another.
So if you believe you can’t, you’ll not be able to and if you believe you can, you will be able to.
But the question is can you see how each thought, feeling, belief, action and reaction you have is causing the outcome or self-fulfilling prophecy that you now call your life?
If not, then working with a Counselling Psychotherapist who incorporates EFT and Matrix Reimprinting is your best bet, so you can learn to catch yourself when you think limiting thoughts in order to be able to start making different life choices to the ones you have been making.
As a result, getting a different outcome in your life.
24. You have to cut everything and everyone off to succeed
This one is really about being able to set healthy boundaries with the people around you so you can achieve your goals and dreams.
Rather than feeling you need to cut everyone out of your life to be successful or to achieve anything in your life you want to achieve.
25. Love, success and happiness are for everyone else but NOT you
Love, success and happiness are all as much a birth/God-given right to you as they are to anybody else.
However, the difference is those who have them, have subconscious beliefs, which support those outcome.
Whereas you believe it’s not your right to have any of these things like they do.
26. I’m such an idiot/What a tool/ I’m so stupid
You are not an idiot ever.
No matter what you do and no matter what you say because there is no such thing as an idiot.
Sure you might say something that might sound a little silly or act in a way that might be a little silly, but that doesn’t mean that you yourself are an idiot.
And every time you have this thought, you’ve got to revisit it in your mind and imagine hitting that delete button as you would on a computer, until you no longer say it either in your head or aloud.
Alternatively, every time this thought comes up you can recite a mantra to yourself, which is in direct opposition to that belief, such as I’m a smart, confident man/woman.
In addition, remember that how people think, talk about and treat you is based on how you think, talk about and treat yourself.
Therefore, when you say any of the phrases listed in this subheading you are effectively teaching people how to think, talk about and treat you.
So when they start reflecting these phrases back to you, don’t be surprised or offended because you’re the one who taught them to think, talk about and treat you in that way.
LEARN MORE: HOW TO FIND YOUR WORTH AND WHY IT MATTERS
27. Making mistakes means I’m an idiot
Making mistakes does not in the slightest bit classify you as an idiot because we all make them and making mistakes is a part of life, it’s how you learn and grow.
However, we get this idea that making mistakes is wrong because maybe we were told off for making mistakes as children that we eventually interpreted it as making mistakes are bad and are to be avoided at all cost.
Therefore, it’s up to you to change how you see yourself when you make a mistake, with of course no one other than a Counselling Psychotherapist who incorporates EFT and Matrix Reimprinting into their sessions (See: HOW TO FIND YOUR WORTH AND WHY IT MATTERS).
28. There’s something wrong with me
On a core celuar level, there is nothing wrong with anybody in this world, everyone is whole and complete as they are.
But it’s our beliefs on a subconscious bodily level, which make us believe that there is something wrong with us and so it’s these we need to attend to, to live a happier and healthier life.
29. Other people’s opinions are more important that yours
Nobody’s opinion matters more than you’re own.
So if you think and believe on a subconscious level other people’s opinions are better or more important than yours, you’re wrong.
But me saying that isn’t enough.
You need to explore this belief more in-depth for yourself so you can start trusting and valuing your own voice.
And in doing so, you’ll feel others trust and value your voice too.
30. You can’t change
When it comes to changing, it’s not necessarily that YOU need to change (See: HOW TO CHANGE MYSELF?).
It’s more that you need to get rid of thoughts, feelings, beliefs, actions, reactions and ideas (such as those in this article) that no longer serve you in being the kind of person you want to be and in living the kind of life you want to be living.
LEARN MORE: TRANSFORM YOUR LIFE BY CHANGING THIS ONE BELIEF
31. Accepting help or support means your weak
Nobody in this world gets anywhere without accepting any help and support from anywhere and anyone.
And it’s in fact, their courage to be vulnerable and ask for support that allows them to get anywhere in the first place.
32. I need to be perfect
The need to be perfect is stressful.
And the art of letting go of your need to be perfect is going to set you free in a way you didn’t even know you needed to be set free.
Since you will let go of the impossible standard of being perfect and instead allow yourself to just be as you are.
Things to get rid of #3: Feelings
Alright, so the following feelings, you of course can’t really get rid of, but you can learn to better recognise them within you in order to be able to better manage them and override them when they arise at irrelevant times
Guilt can have you doing and saying things you don’t want to be doing and saying.
Therefore, the more awareness you can build around what you’re believing about yourself and/or the other person involved, during the times when you feel guilty, the better you’ll be able to make conscious decisions, instead of going with the tide.
Fear, on the other hand, can stop us from doing the things we say we want to do.
Therefore, the more awareness we can build around our fears (both conscious and subconscious), the better we’ll be able to decide if our fears are worth listening to, or not.
Our anxiety around people is often carried forward from generation to generation.
Therefore, we’ve got to make an effort to learn how to acknowledge and talk to our anxiety in a way that will help it to understand and calm down.
As well as, remembering to take a few deep breaths.
We carry stress within our bodies when we experience any fear, worry, doubt, insecurity and anxiety, which means, the accumulation of these overtime can be detrimental to our health and happiness.
Therefore, by actively taking daily steps, such as, meditation to reduce and unclog the stress in our bodies from these emotions, the better we’ll feel about ourselves and our lives.
And so the better off we’ll be for it.
Things to get rid of #3: Actions
37. Taking things personally
Often what people say is a direct reflection of what they’re thinking, feeling and believing about themselves.
Yet we tend to take what other people say personally as though they are really talking about us and not themselves.
Therefore, getting angry at them because we’ve interpreted it as though they are judging and criticising us, when they might not be.
38. Judging and criticising yourself
You might have learnt to judge and criticise yourself because you’ve experienced the judgement and criticism of others so many times before.
But as an adult you don’t have to judge and critise yourself anymore because judging and critising yourself does nothing but make you feel bad about yourself.
And if you judge and criticise yourself for the things you do, you’re more likely to judge and criticise others for the things they do, which isn’t going to come across well.
But to be able to break away from judging and criticising yourself, you have to learn how to disconnect from your judgemental and critical thoughts, which is what you also do by working with a Counselling Psychotherapist who incorporates EFT and Matrix Reimprinting into their sessions.
39. Putting yourself down
If you put yourself down whether aloud or in your head, you’re more likely to experience others putting you down too because they are the mirror to your reality.
Therefore, to prevent others from putting you down, you’ve got to start with yourself first and understand what’s behind your need to put yourself down so you can resolve that within yourself.
40. Manipulating yourself
Manipulating ourselves isn’t something we often think about when we think about the act of manipulation.
It’s often something we think about somebody else doing to either us or somebody else.
However, it’s entirely possible to manipulate yourself through your critical inner voice and putting yourself down.
And is often something you might do to make yourself feel better about yourself because you have no other means of making yourself feel better about you.
41. Engaging in unhealthy ways to make yourself feel better about you
I’ve already mentioned a few unhealthy ways people go about making themselves feel better about themselves.
But I’ve got 7 more listed in this article here >>> 9 HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY WAYS TO MAKE YOURSELF FEEL BETTER so check it out.
42. Wanting to run away from your problems
Running away from our problems is easy.
But to stay and face our problems head on, takes courage.
And in the end makes us feel better about ourselves than running away can ever make us feel.
43. Running away from your emotions
To be comfortable with all your range of emotions as and when they arise is the most rewarding thing you can do because you can then tackle them head on instead of skirting around them.
44. Choosing money above your happiness
Sometimes we just do things because of the money that’s involved if we do this thing or that thing.
But we don’t think about what it’s going to take out of us in terms of our time and energy if we were to say yes to it.
Therefore, it’s up to us to get comfortable in saying no and thinking about the reasons behind us wanting to do something or not so we can make the best choice for ourselves.
45. People pleasing (a.ka. your need to come across as ‘nice’)
Until you realise you’re a people pleaser or not, you probably don’t realise that you’re a people pleaser.
Therefore, it’s up to you to identify if and how this plays out in you (if it does) and to learn how to let go of being a people pleaser by working with a Counselling Psychotherapist who incorporates EFT and Matrix Reimprinting into their sessions.
As this will further support you in reducing your stress levels.
Things to get rid of #4: Reactions
5. Your automatic reactions to the people, places, situations and experiences in your life
Your feelings towards the people, places, situations and experiences in your life create certain reactions in you, which on a subconscious level (until they become conscious) either make you feel good about yourself or don’t make you feel good about yourself.
Therefore, by learning to detach from the thoughts and feelings that those people, places, situations and experiences in your life create in you, you can have different reactions towards the people, places, situations and experiences in your life.
As you realise the thoughts and feelings you’re having towards these things, are really just a reflection of the thoughts and feelings you have about yourself on an unconscious/subconscious level.
LEARN MORE: WHY DO I FEEL LIKE A KID (WITH FAQ’S)?
47. Acting impulsively
The key to not acting impulsively is to increase your self-awareness of when you want to act impulsively.
And to stop yourself when you notice yourself about to make an impulsive decision.
However, to be able to do this you do need to have a regular mindfulness, meditation and reflection practice in place.
LEARN MORE: 3 TOOLS TO GROW OUTSIDE THERAPY SESSIONS
48. Saying yes to the things you don’t want to do
Feelings of guilt often mean we say yes to things we deep down don’t really want to do.
Therefore, asking ourselves if saying yes to this thing before us is because we really want to do it.
OR if it’s because we feel guilty, is important.
Because it can save us from saying yes to something we don’t want to do and therefore, preventing us from harbouring any feelings of resentment towards that person or thing later.
Developing patience with ourselves and others is a skill.
But it’s a skill worth practicing because not only can it make us feel more at peace with ourselves and others, but it can also make us more accepting of situations before us.
50. Automatically blaming others
When you’re too busy blaming others, you take yourself away from focusing on that, which you can control.
For instance, the actions you can take from today and from now on to prevent whatever happened happening again and/or resolve whatever happened within you.
Summary: 50 things to get rid of in 2022 to make it your best year yet
So there you have it, 50 things in the categories of attachments, feelings, actions and reactions to get rid of (or to begin to get rid of) in 2022 to make it your best year yet.
So what are you waiting for, choose one or two and get started by working with a Counselling Psychotherapist who incorporates EFT and Matrix Reimprinting.
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I would love to know what one or two things out of the 50 things to get rid of in 2022, you’re going to focus on.
So let me know in the comments section at the bottom of this page.
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