Are you feeling disillusioned with the whole process of setting goals for yourself and your life in 2022? If so, this article is for you as I give you a new way to set your goals in 2022.
A new way to set your goals in 2022 is to set intentions.
Why? because as the famous Ralph Waldo Emerson saying goes, ‘it’s not the destination it’s the journey’.
And in setting daily intentions on what it is you want to achieve and experience during your day, towards the activities and interactions you’re engaging in, you set yourself up for better success than were you not to do this.
Therefore, it’s that, which I’m looking at in more depth in this article.
So, let’s get started.
Setting intentions VS Setting Goals
Okay so I’m going to be honest here and say that I’m not exactly saying that you completely dismiss setting and writing goals for yourself and your life altogether.
Because the truth is you need goals just as much as you need intentions.
However, what I am saying is that you set your intentions after you’ve set your goals.
How are intentions different from goals?
In looking at how intentions are different from goals, it’s important to define what each one is.
What are goals?
Goals are the broader picture in that they give you an aim and a direction in which to go in.
Therefore, they support you in focusing on what you want to achieve in the long term as they need to be specific, measurable, achievable, realistic and have a timeline.
In other words, when setting them you ideally want to use the SMART acronym.
Although, if I’m being 100% honest, I think the only really useful part of that acronym is the being ‘specific’ part because I feel like once you’re clear on what you want, the rest falls into place.
And the science, which I’ll come onto later, also backs that up too.
Example of a goal
An example of a goal might be that you want to do some networking in order to be able to meet more people.
Therefore, you decide you’re going to attend an X amount of events and talk to an X amount of people (remembering to connect with them after the event whether on Linkedin or elsewhere) each month, in order to reach that goal.
What are intentions?
Intentions, on the other hand, support you in focusing on the day to day.
Specifically, how it is you want to feel as you go through the activities and interactions you’ve set yourself throughout the day, which includes (but is not limited to) activities and interactions, which are going to support you in reaching your larger goals at hand.
An intention, therefore, has no time limit on it in the way that a goal might have, which means essentially you could spend your whole life setting the same intention towards different people, places, situations and experiences in order to perfect that quality of experience you want to experience.
As a result, supporting you in feeling good about yourself and your life.
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Example of an intention
An example of an intention (taking the same example as the goal example above) is you also say that with every encounter you have with a person at these events you want to feel confident and secure in yourself.
It doesn’t have to be these two qualities it can be anything you want to feel, like friendly, welcoming, personable etc. so give yourself time to imagine the quality of experience you want to feel.
And don’t choose qualities based on how you ‘THINK’ you need to feel or ‘BE’ in order to get a specific outcome because as I say in my article HOW TO IMPROVE YOURSELF IN 2022? each positive quality you work on feeds into the other.
So as you work on one, you work on all of them.
Why set your intentions after you’ve set your goals?
It isn’t the attainment of a goal that matters so much but how you feel in the process of trying to reach a goal that matters and who it is you become in the process.
Since how you do anything in life and who you are being, is what determines the outcome of your life.
The science behind setting intentions
The work of neuroscientist Dr Joe Dispenza also supports this finding, as his research shows how you feel about having what you want (i.e. acting as if you’ve already got what you want) is what attracts what you want into your life.
As a result, making your goals a reality.
Therefore, the ‘HOW’ of getting what you want doesn’t actually matter because focusing on how you would feel and how you would be were you to already have what you wanted, is all that matters.
So you have to let go of your attachment to how you’re going to get what you want and let it come to you in a way that’s going to surprise you.
This, however, is difficult for most people to be able to trust in (including me) because we like certainty and predictability and this idea of having no expectation on the outcome is difficult for us.
But like everything else in life, it is a belief you need to instil within you over and over again.
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The benefits of setting intentions on you
1. Setting intentions changes how you feel
As I’ve said many times before, if you want to live and lead a happier and more fulfilling life, then you need to change how you see the people, places, situations and experiences in your life.
Which you do through gaining more of an understanding of them and taking on responsibility for them, which is what you do by working with a Counselling Psychotherapist who incorporates EFT and Matrix Reimprinting into their practice.
However, in addition to this, you also want to change how you feel towards the people, places, situations and experiences in your life.
And one of the ways that you do this (alongside, changing your perspective) is to set intentions around how you want to feel and what you want to experience towards each of these things throughout your day.
This, in turn, will then support you in feeling better about yourself and your life so you can achieve your dreams and goals.
2. Setting intentions puts you in the driver’s seat
This statement couldn’t be more true when you start a setting intentions practice because it makes you realise that you are in control of your life and nobody else.
And it’s in your beliefs and intentions that are creating your reality. Nothing and nobody else.
As a result, you feel like you’re in control of yourself and your life because you’re the one who is choosing what it is you want to experience and you actually experience it because you’ve set that intention for it.
3. Setting intentions overrides your subconscious automatic nervous system patterns
We all have subconscious automatic nervous system patterns, which we’ve accumulated over the time of our lives because of our interpretation of events outside of us.
Therefore, reacting in ways (towards the things outside of us) that no longer serve us as adults and in fact hinder us, rather than support us.
However, setting intentions is far more powerful than your subconscious automatic nervous system patterns.
Therefore, can override them so that you don’t engage in them.
The reason for this is when you set an intention by writing them down in a journal/diary your brain and body store it as a memory so you’re able to bring it up when your subconscious automatic nervous system patterns want to take over.
I can’t, however, say that this is enough to overcome your subconscious automatic nervous system patterns altogether (i.e without working with a Counselling Psychotherapist who incorporates EFT and Matrix Reimprinting into their practice and regular daily meditation) since that hasn’t been my experience.
But it certainly will support you on your journey when and away from working with a Counselling Psychotherapist who incorporates EFT and Matrix Reimprinting into their practice.
To learn more about intentions there’s a book called The seat of the soul, which is on my list of books to read and should be on yours too.
How to set your intentions in 2022?
Step 1 – Schedule them into your calendar
As I discuss in more detail in my article HOW TO IMPROVE YOURSELF IN 2022? to set intentions towards the activities and interactions you engage in throughout your day, you need to set them daily, both during the evening (before you go to bed), and in the morning (before you eat your breakfast).
This means you may need to go to bed earlier and wake up earlier to be able to complete the practice.
This is because doing it daily (at these two times) allows you to gain enough momentum for them to be able to work for you.
I mean I’ve only been doing this after my regular meditation practice, for about a month now, and I already feel happier and at peace doing it.
Step 2 – Remind yourself of your intention
Before you undertake an activity or engage with someone, pause to remind yourself of your intention.
Sometimes I manage to be able to do this and other times I don’t, but regardless, I find the practice still works.
Personal examples of setting intentions
Some of my own personal examples in setting intentions include the following:
‘I set my intention for when…
- Waking up in the morning to be one of excitement and care
- Interacting with family members to be one of kindness and care
- Working on my blog to be one of excitement and productivity
Mine have similar emotions I want to experience because those emotions are important to me to experience as I undertake certain activities and engage with certain people throughout my day.
However, of course, they can be vastly different from each other, as long as you do really want to experience those emotions in regards to that specific person or situation.
And aren’t choosing them because you think you’re supposed to experience these emotions towards that person or activity.
How to fit a setting intentions practice into your daily life?
I’m not going to lie, when you hate your life, feel like you have too much going on, you don’t have a regular meditation practice in place, or you have to get up to go to work and you’re in a job you don’t really like, it’s hard to put this practice into place.
Therefore, I propose you find a way to prioritise this practice (along with a regular daily meditation practice) in your own life, whether it’s:
- Quitting the current job you’re at and starting a business or going freelance that will allow you to set your own schedule
- Stopping yourself from undertaking activities, which don’t allow you to fit this in; or
- Distancing yourself from certain people who take away your energy.
This is because how you feel towards all these things, is what’s getting in your way of being able to put this tool into practice in your own life, in order to make your life better.
Summary: A new way to set your goals in 2022
So there you have it, a new way to set your goals in 2022 is to set intentions after them because how you feel when you work towards your goals is far more important than ‘HOW’ you actually go about achieving your goals.
Since how you feel as you engage with your goals is what’s going to drive you forward and is what’s going to support you in attracting what it is you want.
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Now over to you
In the comments section at the end of this page, I would love to know if this has inspired you to set intentions after setting your goals in 2022.
And what intentions you’ll be setting for 2022 so leave a comment below.
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