Are you struggling to succeed in life, whether it’s in your career, relationships (personal, professional, family, friends, intimate relationships, colleagues), health and well-being, the level of happiness and joy you have in your life, or all of the above?
If so, this blog post is for you as I go through the lessons I learnt on what it takes to succeed in life through both working with a Counselling Psychologist and becoming more open to speakers in the personal development and motivational spaces.
Achieving success in life can seem so far out of reach in some areas of our lives more than others.
However, what if I was to tell you that it takes the exact same steps and amount of effort to achieve success in one area of your life as it does in all other areas of your life?
Would you believe me or not?
If not, that’s why in this post I’m going to talk about what is really getting in your way of you achieving success in life, what you need to achieve success in life and what steps you can specifically take to get closer to achieving success in your own life regardless of the area.
So, let’s dive in.
What is success in life?
To have success in life isn’t only about achieving career success where you’re earning enough money to be able to afford whatever you want, whenever you want. It’s actually a lot more than that. It’s about ‘having it all’.
In other words, a career you love, which pays you well and allows you to explore your interests outside of work, successful family relationships, friendships and intimate relationships, the opportunity to take care of your health and wellbeing, food on the table and a nice and spacious home to live in. As a result, living a life filled with luxury, happiness, fun, joy, ease and excitement.
Which, even though everybody (including you) wants, they don’t believe is possible for them.
Why am I not getting success in my life?
Your subconscious belief, therefore, that you are not capable of having it all, is the reason why you are not getting success in your life whether in one area of your life or all areas of your life.
As this belief, is born out of the fact that you don’t believe you are worthy enough of achieving success in life.
And so makes you believe that in order for you to achieve success in life you have to work harder for what you want and therefore, don’t have in your life currently, to be able to achieve it.
But the truth is you don’t need to work harder for what you don’t have, you just need to work smarter with what you do have available within you in this moment in time because if you’re reading this you have all the resources you need to succeed in every area of your life.
There are simply personal life lessons, you haven’t learnt yet and need to learn to be able to grow and achieve the kind of success in life you want.
1. What’s the most important thing you need to succeed in life?
The most important lesson you need to learn, as a result, to succeed in life is first and foremost a change in mindset around your very own ability to ‘have it all’.
And what it will take for you to be able to have it all.
Therefore, why I’m separating this one from the next nine lessons as I learnt out of all of them this is the most important one for you to go away with and remember.
Since without it (alongside all the other nine to go with it), you wouldn’t get very far.
Lessons I learnt on how to succeed in life inside and out of therapy?
2. How to be a success: Know the real you and what you want
As I talk about in my blog post HOW TO TAKE A BIG ENOUGH STEP BACK TO FIND YOUR PASSION CAREER Oprah Winfrey says the two most important questions you can ever ask yourself are who am I and what do I want.
However, this doesn’t only count for progressing in your career. It also counts for succeeding in all areas of your life.
So if you want to succeed in life, you’ve got to find the real you and what you truly want for yourself and your life.
Not who and how you were taught to be growing up and certainly not who you think and believe you are because of all your past experiences.
3. How to be a success: Deal with your emotions
You cannot be successful in life until you first deal with the difficult situations and experiences you have faced in your life (present and past).
Since if you don’t, you will constantly be reminded of these. And will not be able to move forward in your life in the way you want to.
In addition, you will always react to the circumstances in your life, instead of realising you have a choice in the way you choose to respond to a particular situation and person within your life.
Therefore, will forever succumb to the environment your living in rather than overcoming it.
4. How to be a success: Develop a high degree of self-awareness
Knowing who you are, what you want and how to deal with your emotions, further allows you to exercise a high degree of self-awareness, which is a must for anyone looking to succeed in all areas of their life.
And what you’ll find many individuals who are already really successful posess.
This is beneficial as it means you have developed a deeper understanding of yourself in terms of who you are and are not, what your values are and are not, what you want and don’t want and what you’re thinking, feeling and believing about yourself in regards to particular situations and people in your life so you can better manage those.
As a result, allowing you to be at peace with who you are.
5. How to be a success: Consistent action is key
When you have all of the above in place within you, only then will you be able to take the next action of what it takes to succeed in all areas of your life; Consistent action.
Since the above are the invisible foundations you need to be able to achieve what you want to achieve in life and skipping even one of these will only set you back.
What this means, therefore, is that if you want something, you have to outwork everyone else for it.
Which doesn’t mean overexerting yourself and burning out.
Instead what it means is sticking it out longer than most people would in order to finally be able to see the results you want to see.
What this also means is that you are comfortable going against the grain. In other words, you are comfortable with taking actions that others may not necessarily understand or agree with, such as, spending the majority of your time alone in order to be able to achieve your goals.
6. How to be a success: Exercise Discipline
The act of taking consistent action towards what you want no matter the area in your life, as a result, will allow you to exercise the skill of discipline, which is another key character quality, which is important for you to succeed in life.
7. How to be a success: Have Faith
Whilst I didn’t learn this one directly working with a Counselling Psychotherapist, my eyes were opened to the notion of spirituality (as opposed to religion) and there being a God, a higher power, the Universe (whatever you want to call it) in the therapy room.
As a result, the notion of having faith when it comes to working towards what you want to accomplish in life, made a lot more sense to me, than before I worked with a Counselling Psychotherapist.
8. How to be a success: Don’t quit on your dream no matter what
Most often, people (and I put my hand up to doing this before working with a therapist) will give themselves a deadline (either one or two years) to achieve something they want to achieve, whether personal or professional and when they see it’s not working, they quit believing it’s never going to work.
Alternatively, as Arnold schwarzenegger says they might even have a plan b for when it might not work, which means they’re already preempting the failure of what they’re seeking to achieve.
Therefore, I learnt to succeed in life you can’t give yourself a deadline of one or two years or have a plan b. You’ve got to keep working on it over five, 10, 15, 20 years.
And maybe it will not work out the way you first expect and want it to, but the key is to find an alternative way to achieve all your dreams.
9. How to be a success: Seek out positive influences
If you’re going to succeed in life, you need to surround yourself with people who you can learn from and are going to inspire you to become a better version of yourself.
So if you want to be successful, you need to find a group of successful people to be around so you can learn from.
As the longer you spend with the kinds of people you do want to be like and less time with those you don’t want to be like, the more you’ll likely end up being like those you do want to be like.
10. How to be a success: Self-belief and confidence
Overall, all of the above results in you developing a strong sense of belief and confidence in yourself, your life and your abilities.
So you are able to achieve all that you want.
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What can I do to be successful in life? Work with a Counselling Psychologist
As I’m sure you know, putting all of the above into practice is always much easier said than done.
And to be brutally honest, if you haven’t figured it out by now on your own you’ll never figure it out on your own.
Therefore, why I suggest you too, make the decision to work with a Counselling Psychotherapist as I did.
And can see for yourself why it was the best decision I ever made in my own life since I can go and on and on about it, but you’ll never truly understand it until you experience the benefits of it first hand yourself.
So what are the benefits you ask?
The benefits of working with a Counselling Psychotherapist to succeed in life?
The ability to bring to life ideas
Ideas and concepts mean nothing to us until we directly apply those ideas and concepts to ourselves and our own lives.
And that’s exactly what working with a Counselling Psychotherapist allows you to do to bring to life the ideas and concepts you might be hearing from other areas to life in your own personal life.
As you work with them on a week by week, year by year basis. And the longer you stay the more you’ll understand yourself and others on a deeper level so you can foster deeper connections with them.
What makes working with a Counselling Psychotherapist so powerful too is the tools they provide you with, such as these >>> 4 MIND-BLOWING TOOLS THAT WILL CHANGE YOUR WORLD AND HELP YOU TO OVERCOME PAST REGRETS.
However, as you might have experienced yourself, maintaining the motivation to implement tools and practices in your life on your own isn’t so easy.
Therefore, by working with a Counselling Psychotherapist they can hold you accountable for implementing the tools and practices they recommend into your life so you can see changes.
Peace of mind
As you go through the therapeutic journey you will likely face difficult truths about yourself.
And whilst it will be difficult at times, the fact you have someone who can support you emotionally with your struggles will give you that peace of mind and safety that you need to be able to overcome them and move forward with your life.
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Summary: 10 lessons I learnt on how to succeed inside and outside the therapy room
So there you have it the 10 lessons I learnt on how to succeed in life inside and outside the therapy room, including (but not limited to), winning the war against your own mind, knowing the real you and what you want and having self-belief, confidence, self-awareness and faith.
As well as, where (and how) you can learn them too when you’re struggling to put them into practice in your very own life.
Now over to you…
In the comments section below, I’d love to know what lessons you’ve learnt on what it takes to succeed.
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