How can I get the energy to clean my house is often a question we ask ourselves when we’re feeling stressed and overwhelmed with everything else we’ve got going on in our lives (and our heads).
So, that’s exactly why I’m tackling this exact question for you in this post.
When you’re feeling stressed and overwhelmed with everything else you’ve got going on in your life, it’s normal not to have the energy to clean your home.
However, this doesn’t need to be the case, with the tips I’m providing in this post.
So, let’s get started.
How can I get the energy to clean my house?
Step 1: Understand why you don’t have the energy to clean your house?
There’s no use in being hard on yourself around not having the energy to clean your house since that will only make you feel worse about yourself, which is no help to anybody, least of all you.
As it will further stop you from getting the energy you need to be able to clean your house.
So the first step to knowing how you can get the energy to clean your house starts with first understanding why you currently don’t feel you have the energy to clean your house.
As knowing this will enable you to identify what steps you can take towards changing your mindset around those things in your life, and/or reducing or eliminating those things in your life altogether.
(And no, contrary to what you and most people might think, it’s not simply down to laziness).
Reasons you don’t have the energy to clean your house
1) Consider whether you might have depression
Depression lives in the body.
And can happen to the best of us at any time of our lives.
However, our willingness to identify with depression and ultimately admit we may be suffering from depression is little to none.
Therefore, really consider and be honest with yourself about whether you might be struggling with depression.
And if you do have depression (and aren’t seeking support for it), seek the support you need from your GP by asking them to provide you with a list of therapy practices in your area.
How to know if I have depression?
A key sign of depression is feeling tired a lot of the time, therefore, resulting in a lack of energy.
And yes this can also be down to the food groups you eat, but it can equally be down to depression too.
In addition, depression might show up in feeling dissatisfied and unhappy with life and who you are, which in turn results in you isolating yourself from others.
And so, losing the motivation and will, to do anything as you consider ‘what the point is’ if you’re experiencing a lack of connection, love and belonging to the people, places, situations and experiences in your life (needs we all have as human beings).
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2) Consider if you’re tolerating people in your life who don’t make you feel good about you
What makes depression worse, however, is the company you decide to keep in your life.
In particular, company, which makes you feel worse about yourself and your life than you might already do.
Why? because the company you choose to keep in your life can either empower you to live your best life or disempower you from living your best life.
Therefore, further deterring you from wanting to do any housework.
So if this is true for you, you might need to instil boundaries with anyone who doesn’t make you feel as good about yourself as you can feel, and if that doesn’t work, potentially minimizing your contact with them.
3) Intrinsic motivation vs extrinsic motivation
Another reason to consider why you don’t have the energy to clean your house is related to whether it’s because of factors outside of you (i.e. extrinsic motivation) rather than factors inside of you (i.e. intrinsic motivation).
For instance, is it because you feel an obligation to clean your house in order to meet the expectations of others (extrinsic motivation).
Or, is it because you want to do it for yourself, that is, to make yourself feel better about yourself (i.e intrinsic motivation).
This is an important question to ask yourself because if you’re simply motivated to clean your house because of something or someone outside yourself, you’re less likely to have the energy to do it.
Therefore, in this case, it’s important you tell or remind yourself, you’re cleaning your house for yourself and noone else.
Even if that’s not 100% necessarily true because the thing is your mind will believe anything you consistently tell it.
4) A soul-destroying job (i.e you’re not living your life purpose)
Work gives us meaning in life.
However, it’s not any work, which gives us meaning in life, but rather the work we choose to do for ourselves and the benefit of others.
Since it makes us feel like we’re working for a purpose, which is greater than ourselves.
So when we hate our jobs it’s hard to feel it’s giving us any meaning at all.
Therefore, if this applies to you, it’s in your best interests to figure out the question to HOW DO I KNOW WHAT I WANT TO DO? (AN ULTIMATE GUIDE) since once you discover this, you’ll realise you have lots more energy in other areas of your life too.
5) You dread cleaning your house
Cleaning your house, hardly has a reputation for being the most exciting job in the world.
As a result, further deterring you from having the energy to clean your house.
But what if there was a way for you to turn it into a more exciting job when it was time for you do it?
Through for instance, changing you mindset about cleaning.
How can I get the energy to clean my house?
Step 2: Change your mindset around cleaning
Ways to change your mindset around cleaning?
1) Adapt your self-talk
Are you simply questioning how you can get the energy to clean your home?
Or are you secretly and subconsciously judging and criticising yourself for not having the energy to clean your house by asking yourself the question ‘How do I stop being lazy and clean my house?’
Therefore, interpreting your lack of energy as being ‘lazy’ and so making yourself feel bad about you, as I referred to earlier.
If so, adapt your self-talk around ‘being lazy’ by firstly, becoming aware of whenever you do this, and then rephrasing it to ‘how can I get the energy to clean my house‘ or even ‘how can I get in the mood to clean my house’.
As these two questions, support you in finding/remembering the solution to your struggle and ensure what you’re experiencing isn’t made personal to you (unlike calling yourself lazy does).
Therefore, making it an experience, which is likely to effect anyone in the world, not just you.
2) Remember cleaning can help you to lose calories
This might be important to you, or it might not be, either way is fine.
But if it is important to you, according to this article by the daily mail, doing housework like hoovering, ironing and dusting can help you to lose 1kg per month.
So the next time you feel deterred about doing any housework remember this.
3) Know WHY you’re cleaning your house
A study found when hotel maids knew the benefits of hoovering, they were more likely to be engaged in hoovering.
Therefore, you can apply the same logic to you and cleaning your house by being clear on what the benefits of cleaning your house are to you, which you can learn more about in this article here.
4) Imagine what it would feel like after you’ve cleaned your house
Another way to change your mindset around cleaning your house is to imagine what it would feel like after you’ve cleaned your house.
And do this by thinking about what it would smell like, how you would feel knowing you’ve accomplished cleaning your house (because it is an accomplishment), what your eyes would notice as you looked around your clean house.
In other words, get as many of your senses as possible involved.
5) View cleaning as a contribution to the community/environment around you
Finally, regardless of whether you live on your own or not or whether anyone else will see it or not, viewing cleaning your home as doing something positive for the environment and community around you, will help in giving you the energy you need to clean your house.
Why viewing cleaning your house as contributing to the environment and community around you helps
1) You feel proud to be making a difference to something other than yourself
Making a difference is a hardwired need we all have.
Therefore, by viewing cleaning your house as making a difference to the community/environment around you, you help to fulfil that need.
As a result, supporting you in feeling good about yourself and your contribution to the world, which further gives you the fuel (i.e. energy) you need to be able to clean your home.
2) You feel you have a sense of purpose
Alongside making a difference, viewing cleaning your house in this way will give you a sense of purpose.
As it will reinforce that you, your life, and your actions have meaning.
As a result, making you feel better about the act of cleaning your house.
How can I get the energy to clean my house?
Step 3: Review your house cleaning process and make changes where necessary
The next step is to review your house cleaning process because often we can get into thinking, feeling, believing and thus, behaviour habits, which don’t help us but rather, hinder us.
Therefore, by doing this you’ll be able to identify any part of your house cleaning process that weighs you down rather than energises you.
1) Plan in advance when and how often you will clean your house
Similarly to having a to-do list at work and planning a meeting with a friend or colleague, you’ve got to plan in advance when and how often (monthly, quarterly etc.) you’re going to clean your house.
Otherwise, you’ll just get caught up with the wind and won’t be bothered to do it so it won’t get done.
In addition, it will allow you to plan around it so nothing gets in your way of getting it done.
And you can ensure to plan in more fun activities around it so you know cleaning your house isn’t all you’ve going on for that month or quarter etc.
Therefore, helping you to take the good with the bad.
2) Plan in advance what activities you’ll do when
Depending on the length of time it takes you to undertake certain activities, you might want to choose to leave certain activities for weekdays and others for weekends when you’ve got more time to complete them.
Therefore, helping you to better manage your workload.
3) Schedule them into your calendar
Once you know when, how often and what activities you’ll undertake when, it’s time to schedule them into your calendar, whether on paper or electronically.
As this will ensure you’re more likely to remember to do them and actually follow through with them.
3) Remove any distractions
Distractions by nature, such as, your mobile phone, the TV, your computer/laptops etc. move you away from what you’re meant to be doing.
And whilst it might seem like a good idea to use an electronic device as a distraction, when it’s not really something you want to do, like cleaning, it still needs to be done.
Therefore, the use of a distraction will take you longer to complete your cleaning tasks, which means you’ll also have less time to spend on the things you really do enjoy in life.
So lock away and switch off any electronic devices, which may distract you from attending to the task at hand.
In fact, don’t look at them at all, until you’ve finished your cleaning tasks.
If this is a struggle for you, working with a Counselling Psychotherapist will help you to understand what’s behind your self-sabotaging behaviours, which not only likely feed into your cleaning activities but other areas of your life too.
4) Be present with staying in the moment exercises
Speaking of distractions, the biggest distraction of all is thinking.
In particular, about a situation that happened in the past, a person, what you want to do in the future etc.
Therefore, leaving you feeling angry, impatient or bad about yourself.
As a result, training yourself to be in the present moment with specific exercises will help you to ensure that you stay focused and on task.
So once again, you can get the job done quicker, and you can get back to the things you do love and enjoy.
Although, saying that, practising presence when cleaning will help you to find the satisfaction and joy you get from cleaning.
Since it will stop you from experiencing the emotions I mentioned earlier, and therefore, expending valuable energy, which you can otherwise turn towards your cleaning activities.
So what exercises can you use to train yourself to be in the moment when cleaning?
How can I train my mind to stay in the present moment when cleaning?
One of the ways you can train your mind to stay in the present moment when cleaning, therefore, is by noticing when you’ve moved away from the present moment and into a past or future event.
And consciously bringing yourself back to this moment in time by refocusing your senses on what’s in front of you.
The second way to bring your attention back to the present moment is by paying attention to what you’re feeling in your body.
And don’t worry about labelling what you’re feeling, simply noticing the sensations you’re feeling and where in your body you’re experiencing them, is enough.
However, I will say, what will make this even easier is having a regular practice of meditation and reflection, which you can learn more about here >>> 4 MIND-BLOWING TOOLS THAT WILL CHANGE YOUR WORLD AND HELP YOU TO OVERCOME PAST REGRETS and here >>> 3 TOOLS TO GROW OUTSIDE THERAPY SESSIONS.
And working with a Counselling Psychotherapist over an extended period of time (up to 5 years) to further train you in how to stay present.
4) Start somewhere, no matter how small that somewhere is
Sometimes I’ll look at the cleaning I have to do and feel overwhelmed by it.
Don’t do that.
As I’ve learnt the key is simply to take one corner of a room, one item and begin cleaning that. Even if that one item doesn’t seem logical to begin with.
Then once you’ve done that, it makes it much easier to move onto the next item, and the next item, not thinking about it but simply doing it.
And hey presto what do you know, you’ve got a whole room/the whole house cleaned.
6) Mix it up
As human beings, we are creatures of habit, which means we’ll often seek to achieve a task in the exact same way we did it the first time.
However, I say why not mix it up? Why not start from a different corner of the house or room than you did the last time?
9) Stand back and admire your work
Just like admiring a piece of artwork on a wall, once you’ve finished your cleaning activity, admire your work, soaking in how much better it looks, smells and feels now you’ve finished cleaning it.
Don’t simply move onto the next task, like what you’ve just completed was nothing.
10) Express gratitude
Lastly, expressing gratitude toward yourself, your hands, feet and legs for having allowed you to complete the task at hand will help to further boost your energy and make you feel good about yourself.
I know it sounds a bit kooky, but it really does make a difference to how you feel, which is the key to all of this.
Summary: How can I get the energy to clean my house
So there you have it, the answer to your question how can I get the energy to clean my first house.
First off, understand why you don’t have the energy to clean your house by looking around at your life and being really honest about the people and activities, which are draining your energy so you can take actions towards reducing, eliminating or minimising them.
Then once you do this you can work towards reframing your mindset around what it means to clean your house.
And finally, review your house cleaning process to identify areas where you can make necessary changes to your routine.
Now over to you…
I would love to know what you’ve already tried to increase your energy to be able to clean your house and whether it worked for you. As well as, what you might add to your process from the above tips. Let me know in the comments section below.
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