Our perceptions, the way we understand ourselves, others and the circumstances in our life to be, form our beliefs. In turn, influencing whether we decide to engage with a particular course of action or not.
This too, is true about therapy and why many people decide not to engage with therapy as they often have a negative perception of it.
Therefore, to change your perception, I’d like to talk about 4 beliefs you need to disregard about therapy so you can make the decision to engage with it, rather than avoid it.
1) The client does all the talking and the therapist says Nada.
As someone who feared what I would have to discuss each week and how I would ultimately fill an hour, I was particularly worried about this one belief.
However, I found after initially expressing what I was thinking and how I was feeling about the situations I was facing over the past week, the therapist took over as she brought in a multitude of perspectives from other areas of study to help me put into context what I was experiencing.
Alongside this, I was met with a compassionate, accepting and understanding response; a response I had not previously received from the people in my life and so was relieved to find.
Through asking questions too, the therapist was able to draw out information from me I hadn’t considered expressing, which also helped me to feel at ease, not to mention that the quietness of the room makes it difficult to conceal what you’re thinking and feeling.
2) Therapy digs solely into your past
The next belief you need to disregard, is the belief that therapy solely focuses on your past, which can be ‘depressing’.
Similarly to coaching, therapy seeks to understand what is going on for you, what thoughts, feelings and experiences you are having today.
However, unlike coaching, the therapist will seek to link your present day experience to the past, so you can revisit unresolved struggles in your childhood so you can heal and find closure.
3) You’ll be right as rain in six months to a year
Another belief you need to disregard is the belief that there is a specific time frame (6 months to a year) as to when you and your struggles are to be fixed and if they are not fixed by then, then well Psychotherapy must not be working.
This is because sadly, there is no time frame for your personal development, growth and transformation with therapy because therapy takes time to make your habitual unconscious thoughts and feelings conscious and requires that you take time to reflect and practice the tools given to you outside the therapy room so you can derive to your own realisations.
In addition, nothing in your life stays the same, even when it seems like it is.
For instance, your confidence levels and mental health, always shift and change according to what’s going on in your life, so one minute you may think and feel you do not need therapy and the next you do.
This may sound like a huge financial cost, however, in my opinion there is no better financial cost than this one because of the value you’ll gain in return; the transformation you’ll see in your relationship with yourself and others, with your money, in your love life and any other areas in your life that matter to you.
If what I have said above still hasn’t convinced you to part ways with your money to see a Psychotherapist, maybe Lynne Twists book ‘The Soul of Money: Transforming Your Relationship with Money and Life’ will change your mind.
4) It will not help or make any difference to me
The final belief you need to disregard is that therapy will not make any difference to you and your life, since I can testify that it will make a difference, in the same way it made a difference to me.
As I say above, therapy takes time, patience and commitment and in the same way success doesn’t happen overnight, neither does life transformation.
I am not special, there is nothing special about me in comparison to you.
The only difference between myself and you right now in this moment, is that I made the difficult decision to engage with therapy, the difficult decision to face me and my insecurities, so I could experience the change I wanted to see in my life.